Today I want to talk about #winning
Winning is simple. It's overcoming a challenge. Winning can simply be - getting out of bed. - taking a shower. - smiling. - eating your vegetables. - being kind to you. If that's your truth of today, GOOD ON YOU!
We have all been taught that the hustle and #winning is the way to go and if we aren't hustling 24/7 and winning all the time then we are failures. Or worst, LAZY. To that I say - NO THANX.
What IF we took our wins and took them at face value. My win this weekend was sleeping in and wearing PJs for 1/2 the day. Sure, it's not as sexy as booking something but damn it....it felt SO GOOD to just BE and not be sorry for it.
"I booked this thing but....*excuses galore*"
When I hear this gem it always circles back into "...But I'm super proud I booked something!" Can we just take that for a win and call it a day and NOT justify why other people are going to shit on your dream and...
The text below has been a normal the past few weeks. But last week was an all time high in receiving notes like this from students and friends.
Don't know about you but Friday my anxiety was HIGH. All my normal tools and tricks helped but it was still ever present. So Sunday I took an ENTIRE DAY to myself. I didn't turn on the news once (and I'm a BIG news junkie) and here is what I DID do:
did a 500 piece jigsaw puzzle
watched a LOT of HGTV
drank a LOT of water
ate comfort food without feeling guilt
cuddled with my dogs
put my phone on do not disturb and talked to NO ONE
didn’t leave my house
wore my PJs all day
gave myself a facial
did my nails
I NEEDED this. And today I feel so much better, refreshed and ready to move forward! Is there any way you can...
We are done with month 1 of audition season 2020 and I'm hearing how burnt out folks are. Look we all hear this.... but it's TRUE.... An acting career is all about the long game. Since auditioning is very much the life of an actor, it's helpful to enjoy auditioning and audition season. It just makes life sweeter and easier. So if you're burnt, please take a step back and reassess why and how you got to be burnt. (See questions below.)
Another thing I am hearing people very frustrated that they got callbacks or got into new rooms they have never been in before and weren't booking. That's NORMAL. You don't become an overnight booking queen. It's all about baby steps. Baby steps getting into those rooms. Baby steps getting comfortable in those rooms. Baby steps of consistency. Which leads to the long game and sustaining. Honestly, it's JUST like going to the gym.
About 2.5 months ago I...
Unpopular opinion: I LOVE 8 BARS at a chorus call!!!
Why? Because I do what everyone doesn't and I really think that's the reason I get so many callbacks from them. I challenge you to sit outside the room next time there is an 8 bar situation. You'll hear money note after money note after money note. When you're sitting behind the table (or outside the door) you go numb after a while because it all starts to sound the same.
What works swimmingly for me is what I call, "be the sorbet". Sing a small musical range and a decent acting range. Be grounded AF and just kill them with your story telling. I LEGIT just did a few chorus calls where my song was a range of 5 low range notes.... call back every time.
Go be sorbet. It's the refreshing thing to do!
Honestly, the thing I have most about Audition Season are the complainers.... So many folks see audition season as a slog. A pain in the ass. A personal affront to their humanity and artistry. You can find these folks constantly complaining at every audition that ever happened. I personally, don't have the time or energy for that bullshit.
As someone who books all her own work without an agent, which also means I book all my work through EPA and ECCs I have accepted that most of my life will be spent auditioning... so I better get used to it, get good at it and love it. By making boundaries, a strategy and a plan, that's EXACTLY how I live my best audition season. AND you can follow it here on our Instagram!
Thanks to those constant complainers it's helped me refocus my energy to looking at what I DO have control of and tending to those things so I can be my best self and actor. This has helped me up my game, step up and really show up...
Audition Season. That time of the year where everyone thinks they are going to be an actor for THIS YEAR and it's GOING TO BE MY YEAR TO BOOK ALL THE THINGS.
Ok....sure. But here is the deal...
See, audition SEASON is putting it on a pedestal and that makes it unsustainable and unattainable because it's just out of reach. When in fact, every time you get into an audition room you're reaching it. You're in the room, you're doing the thing.
Those of us who work consistently don't look at audition season as THEE SEASON TO BOOK. It's simply a time of year where there are more auditions. So if I don't book now, cool... it'll come because there will always be more auditions down the road. It's getting rid of the scarcity and accepting abundance, which ALWAYS makes things more enjoyable! :)
Here are a list of truths I live that's made life easier:
1) No matter the level, you will always be auditioning.
2) Audition Season isn't...
Hey. It's Coach MelRob.
Look, I get audition season is around the corner and we are all focused on that right now. But let me share something with you. I have 50% callback ratio from EPAs and ECCs.
Yah, you read that right. How do I have a ratio that high? Because I am strategic AF. And you should be too. Especially going into audition season. And that's EXACTLY why I built the $30 course...
Sustaining Audition Season means NOT being sad, mad, angry and broke at the end of audition season. So let's get a plan to move through the chaos in a focused and proactive way.
We will focus on:
- Proactive plan
- Finding balance
- Breaking down and ridding self sabotage, anxiety and imposter syndrome
- Staying healthy
- The myth of being busy
- Pacing for the long term
You got my earlier note about setting goals for YOU right?
We have 4 areas of our lives as actors:
Keeping the finances out from the art really helps you thrive on both burners. When you add them together I have found that it makes one mad, sad, angry and desperate. So keep those two FAR from each other and know that it's not your employers job to keep you artistically fulfilled.
HOMEWORK - Spend some time writing out what you want to accomplish in each of those areas. Reminder that writing that shit out is far better than keeping it in your head! When you write it down it turns from dream to ACTION PLAN! In...
Goals. It's that time of the year! Do me a favor please. Don't forget about YOU tho!
What do YOU want that's outside of showbiz? What else in life do you want? For me it's travel. And that's exactly why I made the online course Traveling the EU on a Regional Theatre Budget. Did I mention it's $20 and only open through 1/1/20?
This year, it's totally on my list to get back over to (see photo above) my most fav city in the world (Budapest) to see my family and spend some much needed me time. I get over to the EU at least once a year and don't break the bank in the process.
Wishing you the very best life,
Lately I have been to a lot of auditions and have been super aware of folks actions and words. I have noticed there are so many self sabotaging actions and words which include:
I'm so tired.
OMG I didn't warm up.
OMG I was running to late this morning.
No idea what I'm going to do in the room.
Folks. All of those you have control over. But first lets address the first one of "I'm so tired". WE ARE ALL TIRED. Find something else to complain about.
Second. None of the things that you are talking about matter in the room. When you step into the room you need to walk in as your whole self so you can tell that story you're telling fully. Be in the moment fully. Which means dropping all the bullshit at the door. This is the ENTIRE REASON you are at that audition FFS!
Being prepared means being on time, warming up, doing your research. If you aren't doing that constantly all the time.... what are you doing? I'm...